Monday, July 28, 2014

Travel Plans

Some of you may know that we now have a court date and have secured travel plans.  Pasha must stay behind to attend school, but he is getting very excited to see his new brother (his best friend) and sister.  He reminds us all daily of the events coming up: Mama and Daddy are getting on an airplane to EE, Pasha is going to D and B's house to sleep, Pasha is going to school, Pasha is going to tell all of his friends about his new brother and sister coming home, Mama and Daddy are going to fly back home with NEW brother and sister! 

It's interesting as the "big" sister seeing this how this new dynamic will develop.  Daddy cut all of his hair off in a short buzz cut in preparation (one less thing to fool with, right?).  Babushka is not pleased, HA!  Lessons learned from the trip last year are being applied to this years travel plans. 

This year's trip holds some of the same emotions, but some different feelings as well.  Having been to there before, Mama and Daddy are more familiar with the "lay of the land" as well as the proceedings/steps they must take once over there.  A few small things that bring comfort are knowing where to find certain products (ketchup and chocolate!), knowing what restaurants are good and what to order at the resaurants, knowing where to launder clothes, etc. However, the excitement and concerns over travel safeties remain.  It is a tiresome journey with lots of layovers/transfers/different travel methods.  In addition, there a few minor physical/health burdens that we must work around, but we serve a big God who has opened all of the doors thus far, and we have faith that He will carry us through this with an even bigger testimony than before.  God is not contradictory. 

I am sure you will all join us in prayer as we prepare for this adventure!

Monday, June 2, 2014

Paper Journey is complete!

I do apologize that it has taken me so long to update my blog but a lot has happened since my last post.  First I finished my Master in December which was a very nice Christmas present.  We got to spend the our first Christmas with our new son and see the joy the season brought to him.  It was so wonderful seeing the excitement and it was Kathy and me who finally got him up Christmas morning.  So you can say we were just a tad bit excited.

Also we received a miracle when they were trying to find the source of his wheezing.  At sometime in his life he had inhaled the tip of a writing pen or pencil in his lung and it lodged in the bronchial tube. Thank goodness it was hollow and he was able to breath and after they were able to remove this his wheezing immediately quit.  Not only did his wheezing cease but his energy level increased three fold.  He has hit a growing spurt and is quickly growing taller and quickly the pants we both him are getting to short.  He is in the second size and they are also getting to short for him however he still has his slim build and that is something I hope he can keep so I am hoping we can find an extra slim in the next size. I am hoping I can find an extra slim after all they do make and extra large. 

Next it was after much prayer and meditation I resign as pastor of my church because God is leading me in a new direction.  I am looking forward to this because the new direction is a deaf ministry and we are very excited to be a part of this and that God is leading us in this direction.  We have been attending the Deaf Church at Brook Hills and we are really enjoying it.  We are also attending and working in another church on Sunday evenings and Wednesdays.  Our son is making many new friends and everywhere we go they are trying to work with him and learn how to communicate with him.    We have met so many wonderful people at each church and our son is making lots of friends.  We are learning more and more about how to communicate with and be a part of the deaf community, however; we still have much work and learning but we are getting there one day at a time, and yes old dogs can learn new tricks, just takes a bit longer and more practice.

But on with the adoption journey.  After much paper work and get this and that from many sources we have finally finished our paper work and it was taken last  week to the Secretary of State to be apostilled and it is now in Ukraine.  We are praying that all goes well and we are submitted and approved very soon.  We are looking forward to going back and seeing all of the children and taking pictures of our son so they can see him in his new home with his family, friends and school .  We met so many friends along the way and we are anxious to see them all again.

Please continue to pray that God will continue to open the doors for us and provide the needed funds for this adoption.  But just to keep you hanging here is a bit of news we are hoping to adopt two this time both the same age as our son and also both are deaf.  Stay tuned more news to follow in the coming days.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

When God Speaks all we have to do is listen, Or know how to sign.



Can you believe that after 32 years of marriage, two bio children, three of my brother’s children we took in when my brother died, and 9 grandchildren when we adopted 10 year old Pasha.  And we have been home four months since adopting him.  But Pasha had a best friend we were able to meet and spend some time with while we were getting to know Pasha at the orphanage where they lived and we grew to love him and many others.  One day as we were leaving from a daily visit with Pasha, he and Theodore ran up and ask if we could adopt him also, we did not know what to say because our  home study was only for one child, so how to you respond to this?

There were a few times that Theodore was able to sneak in to our room and would spend time with Pasha and us.  But when the workers discovered him there and would come in to get him, he and Pasha would grab hold of each other not wanting to be separated.  Finally, the day came when we were finally able to take Pasha from the facility but it was with bitter sweet tears because these two young men held to each other knowing they may never see each other again.

Recently as we were praying about whether or not to try and adopt Theodore, it was Pasha that God used to direct us in our decision.  We had been praying that God would send Theodore a forever family or that He would let us know what to do.  That answer came one night at the dinner table out of the blue.  Pasha looked up at both of us and signed something and Kathy and I looked at each other and almost burst into tears.  The question he asked was, "Daddy and Momma, could you go and adopt Theodore and bring him home so we can be brothers like twins."

That was all the answer we needed, “Yes God we hear you loud and clear even in the silence of our son's sign language.”  But since we have been praying about this, God just might be opening the door for us to bring not just one but two children home.  If so Pasha will have and brother and a sister like triplets and all three are from the same orphanage, all three are ten years old and all three are deaf, BUT NOT MUTE.  LOL!!! Ain’t God Good!!!!!!!!

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Charles Pasha Dailey finally at home.

In his bedroom and bed. 

He and his momma finally landed arrived around 11:30 PM.  After we took my father-in-law home and our daughter we arrived home around 2:00 AM.  He had to investigate the house and meet the dogs, and I mean this was the highlight of his homecoming this child LOVES dogs!!!  We finally got him in bed around 2:30 AM he went to sleep and was up again bright and early Monday morning around 7:00 AM and did not stop until I got in him bed again Monday night at 10:00 PM.  He played has hard as he could Tuesday and got in bed at 9:00 PM, and Wednesday night it was 9:30 PM but that was because of church.  

Did I mention he really likes the dogs and I think they like him just a little!!! 

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Day 70 and our Adoption Journey is now complete! .

Well after what started over two months ago is about to come to an end and the next part of the saga will begin.  We waited and prayed for passports every day last week and on Thursday we finally made a decision that I would have to travel home and  because I need to be back at work on Monday.  So after we had not heard anything about the passport I booked my flight.  I then packed and got up at 2:30 AM Ukrainian time and began the almost 24 hour trip home.  When I finally landed in Chicago I turned my phone on and I had a message from Kathy that said, WE GOT PASHA’S PASSPORT and we are coming home Sunday.  PRAISE THE LORD. 

It was good that I came home early because Saturday morning the AC quit.  I thought it may have just froze up because our daughter had turned it up higher since we were not home and I turned it down some.  But I turned it off all day Saturday as I was doing all of my shopping that I needed to do for groceries and other necessary supplies.  When I arrived back home late Saturday night I turned it back on and it cooled a couple of minutes and then started blowing hot again.  So last night I slept with no air but I had a ceiling fan that I was able to use and also I was acclimated to the temperature from being in Ukraine in a couple of apartments that were very nice but had no AC.  So I called my sons Sunday morning and they were able to get the part I needed and got the AC back on.  They were working on the Stove trying to get it going again but the small tank I had gotten to get us by a couple of days uses a regulator and the stove also has a built in regulator so the two regulators combined kept the pressure so low the gas could not get through to the Stove.  But thank God yesterday we finally got a tank that allowed Kathy to cook us a regular meal of cube steak, mashed potatoes and gravy, Paula Dean's Green beans (Fried with Bacon and onions, WONDERFUL DISH), and Fried Green Tomatoes and biscuits.  Oh yes this ole boy eat till I thought I would pop.  Pasha on the other hand is still having eating issues, I think it is because his teeth are in such bad shape, and we will be getting him to the dentist for that soon.

There was a good bit of storm activity Sunday between Washington D.C. and Charlotte NC and because of it Kathy’s flight was delayed but she and Pasha finally arrived safe and sound at 11:30 PM Sunday evening.  What should have taken only 5 or 6 weeks max, actually took us 10 weeks.  And while there were times we did get home sick, we are truly thankful for the experience and the opportunity that we had.  Pasha is a great joy to be with, but at the same time he is a 10 year old boy with lots of energy and our Jack Russell’s don’t know what to think of him.  He loves them but they are trying to learn him.  The one dog I thought would be the one to take to him, is the one that runs from him and the one I thought would run she is eating him up.  She will let him do whatever he wants and she don’t mind.  I know the others in time will learn to love him and enjoy being with him, but right now they just don’t know what to do with all of this attention, and they don’t understand his playing methods but they will with time.

But we are so glad to be home and SO IS PASHA, the little man goes from the time his feet hit the floor of a morning until he goes to bed at night. He is loving his new home and surroundings, and we are losing weight keeping up with him.  But there one that I will like to say as I close out this saga, there is NO PLACE LIKE HOME!!!

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Day 62 of our adoption and spiritual journey

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV).

Today a scripture I really needed was in an email “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves” (Philippians 2:3 KJV).  Why did I need this and why this particular email?  Well I am a child of God and God knows me even better than I know myself or am willing to admit.  He knows that right now we who are here in Eastern Europe (EE) waiting on passports are frustrated because the only thing that keeps us from going home are the passports that must be printed by this EE country.  Right now it has been four weeks since a passport was printed and we are told each week they will be printed next week and when that week comes, no passport.  So you see the frustration that many of us are having to deal with.  Also we paid additional money to have the passport print expedited within five working days.  It is going on three weeks now and we still have not gotten a passport for “P” so you see how our frustration can excel to great heights during these trying times.

God I know is helping me each day and he keeps reminding me of the words of his servant Paul, “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.  I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.  I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:11-13 KJV).  And I am also reminded that one night while on a ship that was being tossed about in a very bad storm that had lasted many days, Paul said “The angle of the Lord of whose I am stood before me this night.”  I really like that “The Lord of whose I am!”  Those words alone should make any child or God stand up and praise him because we are HIS CHILDREN!  And he is watching over us and he is protecting us.

You see from the scripture above we need to learn contentment because we have been raised in a Burger King society of have it your way, when you want it and accept nothing less.   But this is not the attitude that God wants us to have.  During the first few days that “P” was with us we bought him some toys and things because he had nothing of his own, because everything at the facility he was in belonged to the facility and was shared by all.  So as we bought these things he began to expect that whatever he wanted we would get for him.  And when we started saying no he began to get angry and pitch his little temper tantrums just like we do when we don’t get our way in society or the world.   We stop and we pitch our temper tantrums, why?  Because of our Burger King attitude, we did not get it our way, our style, color, size or when we wanted it.  God is not pleased with this and when we do God like this, he loves us enough to ignore us until we finally calm down and allow ourselves to finally listen to him. You see God’s ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts, His ways and thoughts are so much higher than ours.  He will take care of us but we must put our complete faith and trust in him.  Yes sometimes he says yes when we ask, sometimes no and sometimes I’m working on it which means we need to waiting upon the Lord and when we do we shall renew our strength.

Yesterday there were about eleven families that got together at a favorite hot spot for most U.S. Citizens that come here for adoptions.  We met there and had a great time together and yes they are also frustrated with the situation but right now there is nothing WE can do.  But we must put our trust, faith and hope in GOD because He is the only one who can correct this situation.  I am reminded of a song titled “I Will Talk to My Father for You,” and performed by the Nelons, and the words are:

Verse 1: If you’ve got a problem, I'd sure like to share;
There's one special way I can show you I care.
I could offer opinions that might prove untrue;
For the only sure answer, here's what I'll do.

Verse 2: I have never prayed fire down from the sky,
but God saw each tear that ever fell from these eyes.
So if you've got a mountain alone you can't climb,
I'll take your burdens, and I'll make them mine.

Chorus: I will talk to the Father for you, and if I know my Father,
here's what He'll do;
He will lay at your feet all the things you pursue.
It's no bother, for my Father will do it for you.


Please continue to pray for us as we wait upon the Lord to provide for us “P’s” passport so we can come home with our son.  Also remember Kathy, a couple of days ago she stumbled and fell and hurt her knee and it is badly bruised and she cannot stand on it long.  And my ear left ear has been infected from the heat and my hearing aids for the last week but praise God I think it is finally getting well.  I found some drops that I started putting in it and Kathy has been doctoring it and it feels much better today and last night I began to hear, as well as I can, in that ear.  So among the dark clouds there have been some sunshine and we are truly thankful for that.  Praise His Name to God Be the Glory, Great Things He Has Done!

Friday, July 12, 2013

Day 60 of our Adoption journey

What should have only been at the max of maybe 42 is now at 60 days and currently we still do not know when we will be able to travel home.  Right now we have everything done but the one road block is the Eastern European country we have adopted in changed the company that prints their passports and no passports have been printed in 4 weeks now.  We have been waiting on ours for 2 weeks now and finally this morning we were told that only test passports were printed and 80% of those were rejected due to faulty printing equipment.  We have been assured, as we have in the past few weeks, they are working 24/7 to correct the problem.  You see “P” is still considered a citizen of this EE country and will not officially be a U.S. Citizen until we can 1) get his EE passport, 2) The U.S. Embassy stamps his visa, 3) reach the First U.S. checkpoint and when they Stamp his passport he will then officially be an American citizen. 

We have contacted several government officials to ask for assistance, not just for us but there are six other families that are stuck here waiting on passports and many of them have children that need medical attention as soon as they can get it.  This situation is putting some of them in great danger and others are quickly running out of funds and one family may not have enough to get back home.  As I said we have contacted many, many government officials including, Senators, Representatives, U. S. State department, U.S. Embassy and the U.S. Consulate office.  Asking of for Emergency Passports for these children and get this we are basically told oh there is nothing we can do!  If they were truthful they would say there is nothing they will do.  What gets me about this is the current administration in office in Washington is supporting illegal immigrants and giving them free medical care, food stamps, lodging and jobs.  But for U.S. Tax payers like me who actually pay their salaries and help fund all of the free hand outs, when we ask for just an emergency passport so we can come home we are basically spat on and said No! “We will not do anything to help you because you are doing it legally and your are a tax payer!

Okay I have been on my soap box and said my peace now what I must remember is that while I am frustrated and aggravated with the system I cannot not let it consume me.  Why, because I had let it and when I realized it today I had to ask God for forgiveness.  You see when we allow frustration and anger to fill our inner being there is no room for the Spirit.  So I had to ask God to forgive me for allowing this to fill me to the point I could not feel Him or His Spirit.  Once I had that done I can forgive, oh I am still upset and frustrated with the situation but I refuse to allow it to eat me up and cause me to not feel the Spirit of God.  I know God is working on it, why?  Because I have asked him to.  We read in His word, Our soul waiteth for the LORD: he is our help and our shield. For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name. Let thy mercy, O LORD, be upon us, according as we hope in thee” (Psalm 33:20-22 KJV).   And then “But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31 KJV).  And finally “But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26 KJV).

Maybe this is the lesson God is trying to show me the to be more patient and not keep these feelings of frustration to a point where we can deal with them but not lose sight nor feeling of the Spirit and Will of God.  So please pray that we all can wait upon the Lord, I am reminded of a song the McKamey’s recorded a few years back “You’re Still God.”  You can listen to it here, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLaqFu6SMt4.  Sometimes we need to be reminded we are still children of God and that is what matters. But also the paths we choose in this life as reflected by the late Robert Frost.
 "I shall be telling this with a sigh 
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."
(The Great poet Robert Frost penned this in his poem "The Road Not Taken", one of my favorite poems published in 1916.)  Question is what paths have your chosen?  Will you be proud to tell others of your path in years to come or completely ashamed and wanted to hide the paths?  Think about it?

Each day we are with “P” we are learning more about him and tickled at many of the little sounds he makes.  I love to sit and watch him play a game on the pad because he talks to himself through sign.  I guess to him this is how he thinks because many times I have watched as he spells things out.  We are working on some issues with sleeping and eating and we just discovered why he is not wanting to eat any meat.  His teeth are in horrible shape and one of them broke the other day and he told me it was hurting.  I have noticed he does not chew on that side either and the food that he does eat are the softer foods.  And it must be just the right temperature not to hot and not cold.   We are teaching him to pray before our meals and the other day I saw him open some chips to eat and I watched and he said his prayer in sign.  I am thankful I taught him this and now each night before he goes to sleep I go in and pray with him in ASL.  My prayer is that I will be able to teach him who God is and what Christ did for him so he will understand.  And it would be a great honor for either his mother or me to be the one who leads him to Christ.

Continue to pray for us as we wait on his passport and please pray it comes soon and that our funds hold out.  I was planning to go home today and Kathy and another mom were going to room together but yesterday Kathy stumbled and fell on our way back from lunch and has hurt her knee and foot. So I am going to stay and do the leg work and take care of her and "P".  She is having problems walking on them so please pray for her that God would touch her and heal her.